In the world of modern dating, the thrill of the chase often gets confused with real love. Movies and TV shows just make matters worse by showing a fake reality of how love works. We’ve all seen it in movies, heard it in songs, and perhaps even experienced it in real life. But here’s the hard truth: chased love is not real love. If you’re constantly chasing after someone, you might be mistaking obsession or infatuation for love. Let’s dive into why real love doesn’t need to be chased:
1. The Nature of Chased Love:
Chased love is inherently unbalanced because it’s a one-sided affair. Love is something that needs to come from both sides where both people are putting efforts. When only one person is doing everything and putting in all the effort. This one-sided effort creates an illusion of love, but it’s more about the thrill of the hunt than love at that point. If you find that you are always trying to win someone over, constantly seeking their attention, you’re likely caught up in chased love, not real love.
If she is attracted to you she will make sure to connect with you. If she is not attracted to you then you need to move on. There is no point in trying to force someone to like you. Thats never gonna happen.
2. Why Chased Love Isn’t Sustainable
Chased love feels exciting because of the movies and TV shows and the image that they have created in the minds of men. But if you really think about it logically it’s not sustainable. Like I mentioned before love needs two people to work together. The entire concept that you need to convince someone to love you is wrong.
If they find you attractive they will make efforts to be with you. Otherwise, they will just enjoy the attention and validation and then ghost you for someone else. Not only is that a waste of time for you. It’s gonna break your self-confidence and self-esteem if you keep getting used like that.
3. Real Love Is Mutual
True love is a two-way street. I can’t stress this enough real love is always mutual, where both individuals are equally invested in each other’s happiness and well-being. There’s no need for games, manipulation, or the chase.
Chased love often stems from infatuation. It’s easy to mistake the adrenaline rush of pursuing someone for genuine feelings. If you’re constantly chasing someone who isn’t interested in you, it’s important to ask yourself if you’re truly in love or just infatuated with the idea of winning them over.
4. How to Recognize Real Love
So, how do you know if what you’re experiencing is real love? Here are a few key signs:
- Mutual Respect: In a relationship, both partners respect each other’s boundaries, and feelings. The same is the case even in the courting phase. There’s no need to chase her, cause if she is attracted to you she will also be trying to connect with you.
- Effort from Both Sides: In a healthy relationship, both individuals put in the effort to make each other feel loved and appreciated. It’s not one person doing all the work; it’s a team effort. You are partners.
- Growth and Support: Real love encourages personal growth and self-improvement. Your partner supports your goals, dreams, and aspirations, and you do the same for them.
5. Breaking Free from the Cycle of Chased Love
- Know Your Worth: Understand that you deserve a partner who values you as much as you value them. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t put effort into being with you.
- Set Healthy Boundaries: Establish boundaries that protect yourself. Don’t allow yourself taken for granted.
- Seek Genuine Connections: Look for relationships where there is mutual interest and effort from the beginning. You do not need someone to complete you. You are already complete. Love requires two complete people to come together.
Conclusion:
Chased love might seem romantic in the short term due to the influence of movies and TV shows, but it’s not the way love works. Real love doesn’t need to be chased because it’s built on mutual respect and attraction.
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