Sliding into a girl’s Instagram DMs can feel like a minefield for those who are new to dating especially online dating. With so many guys competing for attention online, it’s easy to get lost or, worse, left on read. But fear not! With the right tips and approach, you can significantly increase your response rate and stand out from the crowd. Here’s how to craft the perfect Instagram DM strategy that’ll have her hitting reply in no time.
1. Optimize Your Profile First
Before you even think about sliding into her DMs, make sure your Instagram profile is on point. Think of it like your landing page or your resume. Your profile is the first impression she’ll get, so it needs to be strong. Here’s what you should do:
- Profile Picture: Use a high-quality, clear photo that shows your face. Avoid group shots or anything too casual.
- Bio: Keep it short, sweet, and interesting. Highlight your personality and interests. A well-crafted bio can spark curiosity and give her a reason to respond to your message.
- Feed: Your posts should reflect who you are. Make sure your content is a mix of lifestyle, hobbies, and maybe even a little humor. Avoid anything too over the top or controversial.
Here are the 7 types of photos you need for your Instagram and dating profiles
2. Make sure your Profile is Public and Follow Before You DM
No girl is gonna respond to a guy who she cannot see. Make sure your profile is public so she can check it out. Also don’t just dive into her DMs out of the blue. Start by following her first. This signals your interest without being too forward. Plus, if she follows you back, it’s a good sign that she’s open to a conversation.
3. Personalize Your Message
Avoid generic dms like “Hey” or “What’s up?”. Unless you wanna be ghosted those are the worst possible msgs you can send. Instead, personalize your message based on her content. For example, if she posted about a recent trip, you could say, “That trip to Bali looked amazing! What was the highlight of your trip?”
Or go through her stories and post and find something interesting you can use to send an interesting dm.
Personalization shows that you’ve taken the time to check out her profile and that you’re genuinely interested in her, not just sliding into every girl’s DMs. Make her feel special.
Also, don’t compliment her on her looks instead comment on her personality, passions, etc.
4. Be Confident, Not Creepy
Confidence is key when it comes to sliding into a dm, but there’s a fine line between confident and creepy. Avoid suggestive messages or sexual msgs right off the bat. Instead, keep it light and playful. A good rule of thumb is to imagine how you’d approach her in person.
Women are different from men. As a guy you might like it when a girl sends you provocative pictures but as a girl that’s the last thing you wanna see from a guy. So no d**k pics or shirtless pics or anything creepy like that. Never ever do that.
5. Keep It Short and Sweet
Don’t send a novel-length message. You just wanna start a conversation not send her an essay about why you like her. Keep your DM simple and to the point. A few sentences are enough to get your message across. Remember, the goal is to start a conversation, not to tell your life story via messages. Save that for when you are actually out on a date with her.
Also, be patient. Sometimes girls take longer to respond to a DM that’s okay. Don’t spam her dms. That makes you look needy and creepy.
Bonus Tip: Don’t Take It Personally
Not every DM will get a response, and that’s okay. Women are often bombarded with dms and messages from guys. Sometimes, she might be busy, or maybe she’s just not interested in dating. Don’t take it personally or let it affect your confidence. She doesn’t know you or how awesome you are. It’s her loss so forget about her. Keep refining your approach and remember that dating is a numbers game.
Conclusion:
Sliding into a girl’s Instagram DMs should not feel like a lottery. By following the above 5 tips you will significantly increase your response rate. By having a good profile and a good social life you can get even better response rates and even girls will dm you instead. So focus on being the best version of yourself. Keep trying and improving as a man. And you will have plenty of abundance when it comes to dating and women.
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