All right guys it’s time to get good at kissing girls. Women love it when you can give a really good kiss as a man. A good kiss will tell the girl everything she needs to know about you. Your desire and connection with her are the spark of attraction she craves. So to make sure you give her a really good kiss. Here is everything you need to know about kissing.
Kissing is more than just a moment—it’s a spark. The right kiss can leave her thinking about you long after you’ve parted ways, while the wrong one? Well, it’s something she might not want to revisit.
As a dating coach, I’ve seen men overcomplicate the art of a kiss. The truth is, a great kiss isn’t just physical; it’s emotional. It shows her that you’re confident, in tune with her energy, and genuinely interested in her.
If you want to kiss a girl in a way that leaves her wanting more, here’s how to make it unforgettable.
Why the First Kiss Matters
A first kiss is like your second chance at a first impression. If you do it right her attraction for you will go through the roof. If you mess it up then well you aren’t getting lucky with her. In the context of romance, what a woman feels when she is with you and when you kiss defines her overall experience for her with you. If she feels the kiss was magical and amazing, then she will perceive you to be magical and amazing.
Understanding Women’s Emotions
Women’s feelings are their reality. There is a reason they say women are emotional creatures when it comes to romance. For a really amazing kiss, you need to give her the best experience, the aim to make her feel it was a great and magical kiss. This might sound technical, but it’s a strategy that works when it comes to kissing women.
A kiss doesn’t exist in a vacuum—it’s part of a larger story. If you jump in too soon or out of nowhere, it can feel rushed or awkward. The best kisses happen when the moment feels right, and that starts with building connection.
Pay attention to her body language, the energy between you, and how she’s responding to your presence. Is she leaning in? Making eye contact? Laughing at your jokes? These are signs she’s comfortable and open to more.
What to Do:
- Engage in meaningful conversation to create a connection.
- Use subtle touches, like brushing her hand or placing a hand on her back, to gauge her comfort.
- Let the anticipation build—it’s half the magic of a great kiss.
1. Have Soft Lips and make sure you smell amazing
Prepare yourself before the kiss. The game begins long before you even think of kissing the girl. You need to make sure you smell great. Use mint mouth fresheners whatever you need to make sure you smell great. If you want her to keep kissing you making sure your lips feel amazing to kiss is important. Keep your lips soft and moisturized with lip balm. Make sure your grooming game and hygiene are on top. Avoid chewing on your lips.
Small details can make or break the experience. Fresh breath, clean skin, and confidence go a long way. If you’re nervous, take a deep breath and remind yourself that it’s about connection, not perfection.
What to Do:
- Use gum or mints beforehand to ensure your breath is fresh.
- Stay relaxed—confidence is magnetic.
2. Strong Eye Contact Foreplay
Maintain strong eye contact before the kiss. I cannot stress this enough, the sexual tension and romance are needed to make the moment sexual and magical for her. Good eye contact locks her in and makes her feel the sexual tension. Now before going for the kiss make sure that you have shown that you are high value and that you have made her comfortable. She needs to know you are an amazing guy and she is safe with you.
Eye contact is your silent green light. It creates intimacy and shows her you’re present and paying attention. A lingering gaze can communicate your interest without saying a word.
Right before leaning in, hold her gaze for a moment. If she maintains eye contact and softens her expression, it’s a good sign she’s ready for the kiss.
What to Do:
- Look her in the eyes with confidence, not hesitation.
- Pair your gaze with a genuine smile—it puts her at ease.
High value + Confidence + eye contact = hot.
Low value + needy + eye contact = creepy.
Simple math guys.
3. Touch Her Face
Cup her cheeks in your hands and lightly pull the back of her neck as shown below. The image below is a good example. This gives you control when you kiss her and women love it. It also makes her feel submissive which most women are in a romantic sense. It also gives her a moment to decide if she wants to kiss you, making her more comfortable with you.
Which is exactly what you want. If she doesn’t let you touch her face and pull her neck you know she is not ready for the kiss. You can back off and build more value and comfort. This is part of calibration when it comes to women.
Her body language will tell you everything you need to know. If she’s leaning toward you, touching her hair, or angling her body in your direction, it’s a clear signal she’s comfortable.
On the flip side, if she’s pulling away, crossing her arms, or avoiding your touch, she’s not ready. Respect her signals—it’s better to wait than to misread the moment.
What to Do:
- Pay attention to her body language
- Match her energy—don’t force a kiss if she’s not giving you signs she’s interested.
4. Control
Now this is the time for you to shine. When it comes to the actual kiss rest your top lip on her bottom lip. This gives you control and makes the kiss more passionate. Women want you to lead the kiss. They love a man’s dominant and passionate kiss. It’s a preview of what’s to come. And trust me you will make her wet if you do it right. Being dominant is crucial; women love dominant men. If you’re taller, tilt her head up more.
A great kiss isn’t just about the act itself—it’s about how you make her feel. If she feels seen, appreciated, and connected to you, the kiss will naturally have more impact. Listen to her responses, both verbal and nonverbal. Is she leaning closer? Smiling afterward? These are signs she feels good about the experience.
The idea is to lead the kiss and let her follow. You are not forcing but leading. Learn the difference.
5. The Soft Kiss
A soft kiss is more romantic and discreet. This is especially useful if she is with friends and doesn’t wanna be seen kissing in public. Place your lips on hers gently. Kiss vertically for a gentle kiss no tongue just kiss her lightly for a few seconds and let go.
Leave her wanting more. If she shows she really wants it more move her to a bit more private place and then do the passionate kiss. This is a situational choice. Read the room and decide if you want a soft simple kiss or a more passionate kiss.
6. The Passionate Kiss
A passionate kiss as the name suggests is more intense. It’s more passionate and exciting. Push your lips onto hers, bite her lips gently, and press your face against hers. Use your tongue and be more intimate with her. For a passionate kiss, use your tongue to explore her mouth. Tease her with it or dive deep, depending on the situation. It’s always recommended that you have some privacy while doing this. Most girls don’t like showing their wild side in public cause of fear of what people might think or say. So make sure to make her comfortable and read the room.
7. Full Make out or No Make out?
This is situational and depends a lot on how your interaction has gone so far. Depending on where you are, what’s the vibe, and how interested she is in you you need to make the decision there. If she is with her friends then a full-blown make-out will be harder and is probably not your best bet. But if you and she are alone in a private location then you can proceed to a make-out session that can get her horny, but manage her lust well. If you can’t finish the job and don’t have the logistics figured out, don’t overdo it.
One of the most underrated aspects of a great kiss is knowing when to stop. Too long can make the moment lose its spark. Pulling back at the right time leaves her wanting more.
A gentle pause shows confidence and lets her anticipate what’s next.
What to Do:
- After the kiss, pull back slightly and make eye contact.
- Let her dictate if she wants to kiss again or continue the moment.
Make sure that she is comfortable and also into it.
8. Use Your Hands
Use your hands to touch her waist, butt, and back while kissing. This full-body experience intensifies the kiss and makes it truly magical. This is obviously for a passionate kiss. Make sure to read the situation and have enough privacy when doing this. Calibrate based on your situation. If you want more practical lessons on calibration then I recommend having a coaching session with Anna. You can book a free call to get started.
9. Be the First to Break the Kiss
Always be the one that ends the kissing. Make her want you more. Ending the kiss first puts you in control and shows you can manage your passion. This control is sexy to women. She will want you more. Don’t be needy that’s an instant turn-off.
Make sure that she wants it more. Play it cool and have fun. Nice guys tend to get needy and ruin their chances. Men who have abundance are not needy.
A great kiss doesn’t end when your lips part—it leaves a lasting impression. It’s not about being the “perfect kisser”—it’s about making her feel special and leaving her excited for what’s next.
10. Finishing touches
Now once you have her all hot and bothered you need to decide whether you want to continue kissing or take her back to your place. The goal is to do a lot more than just kiss. Lead the kiss to sex. Seduction and relationships revolve around sex after all. This has more to do with logistics and comfort. That goes beyond the scope of this one single post. I recommend getting a fully customized plan for you so you can improve your dating life drastically.
Conclusion
Mastering the first kiss is part of a larger seduction process when it comes to dating women. Whether soft or passionate, your kiss should feel magical and amazing to her. Be the guy who she wants to keep kissing. You need to be the guy who she remembers when she sees a kiss scene in a movie or a tv show.
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