Looking to improve your dating game? If you are a book or audiobook lover this post is for you. The right book can provide invaluable insights, strategies, and ways to improve your dating life drastically. Here’s a list of the top 10 books on dating for men, each with a brief summary to help you choose the best one for your needs.
1. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover
“No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Robert Glover is aimed at men who feel frustrated by their attempts to please everyone and get nothing in return. Glover addresses the Nice Guy Syndrome and provides strategies for men to reclaim their masculinity, set boundaries, and build healthy relationships with themselves and women. It’s an essential read for those looking to break free from the nice guy syndrome.
If you are struggling with women because you are nice and can’t figure out why women don’t like you this book is for you. I can’t stress enough how big of a life-changer this book is. I recommend giving it a read. It’s our favorite book when it comes to getting good with women.
2. The Psychology of Modern Flirting by Jared Psych Lawrence
“The Psychology of Modern Flirting” by Jared Psych Lawrence delves into the science and psychology behind effective flirting. The book explores various techniques and mindsets that can enhance your flirting skills, making interactions with women more natural and enjoyable. It’s a great resource for understanding the subtleties of attraction and communication with women in a way that makes flirting effortless and natural.
If you want a more logical way of understanding women then this book is for you. Jared has coached thousands of men and knows what women really want vs what they say they want. For a limited time, you can get this book for free from us just by booking a free call with us.
3. The Mystery Method by Mystery
“The Mystery Method” by Mystery is a foundational text in the world of dating advice. The book outlines a structured approach to meeting and attracting women, emphasizing techniques like peacocking, demonstrating higher value (DHV), negs, and building social proof. It’s packed with practical tips and detailed strategies that can help any man improve his dating skills. Mystery’s actual name is Erik von Markovik. He also happens to be the host of the most popular show Pickup Artist which aired on VH1.
This book is pretty much the bible of the pickup artist world. Even though it’s a very old book all the principles in the book are still valid to this day. I recommend reading it if you wanna understand the game dynamics of pickup.
4. The Game by Neil Strauss
“The Game” by Neil Strauss is both a memoir and a guide, chronicling Strauss’s journey from an average guy to a master pick-up artist. The book provides an inside look at the secretive world of pick-up artists (PUAs) and offers lessons on confidence, attraction, and social dynamics. It’s a captivating read with plenty of actionable advice that you can use to attract women.
The game similar to the mystery method is one of the oldest and most trusted books when it comes to dating. Actually both Mystery and Neil are very good friends who did many projects and workshops together. If you like pickup artists then this book is a must for you.
5. Models by Mark Manson
“Models” by Mark Manson advocates for an honest and authentic approach to dating. Manson emphasizes self-improvement and genuine connection over manipulative tactics. The book is full of practical advice on how to develop confidence, communicate effectively, and attract women through authenticity.
Most of the pickup techniques you read on the internet or see on YouTube videos feel inauthentic and manipulative to guys. But Mark’s Book is one that focuses on you being the best version of yourself. If you want your own style of getting women this book is for you.
6. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
“The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida offers a spiritual and philosophical perspective on masculinity and relationships. Deida discusses the challenges men face in balancing work, relationships, and personal growth. The book provides insights into how men can embrace their masculine energy and live with purpose and passion.
This a must-read book for those who did not have a strong father figure or role model of a man growing up. This book shows what true masculinity is and how men need to embrace it instead of shying away from it. If showing masculinity is a problem for you then this book was made for you.
7. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie is a timeless classic that focuses on building interpersonal skills. While not specifically about dating, the principles of effective communication, empathy, and relationship-building are invaluable in the dating world. Carnegie’s advice can help you become more charismatic and influential in any social setting.
In order to attract women you need be to charming and interesting. This book helps you with exactly that. It teaches you how to be social and get to know people better. It also ensures you don’t run out of things to say when talking to women.
8. Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
“Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl is a profound exploration of finding purpose and meaning in life, even in the face of suffering. While not directly about dating, Frankl’s insights into human motivation and resilience can provide a deeper understanding of yourself and what you seek in relationships.
If you struggle with inner game and confidence then this book is for you. It goes deep into mindsets and finding purpose/meaning in life especially when you feel lost. This book is your friend if you feel yourself being needy and desperate for women.
9. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
“The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson challenges conventional self-help advice and advocates for focusing on what truly matters. Manson’s candid and humorous style encourages readers to let go of societal pressures and embrace authenticity. It’s a great read for men to prioritize their values in dating and life.
If you struggle with confidence and outcome independence then this book is tailor-made for you. The book goes in-depth about values and being yourself. Accepting yourself and as the name says not give a fuck about what people and society think about you.
10. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
“The Art of Seduction” by Robert Greene explores the strategies and psychology behind seduction from a more methodical approach. Greene examines historical figures and their seductive tactics, offering insights that can be applied to modern dating. The book covers various styles of seduction and provides a detailed guide to mastering the art of attraction as a man and why it’s so powerful even today.
He is also the author of the famous book 48 Laws of Power which is more of a self-help book but an equally good read. If you want a more structured historical approach to seduction and attraction then this book is for you.
Conclusion
Whether you’re a novice in dating or looking to refine your skills and level up as a dating expert, these books offer a wealth of knowledge and practical advice about dating for men that you can’t find elsewhere without practical experience. From structured methods to philosophical insights, there’s something here for every man seeking to improve his dating life. Dive into these reads and start transforming your approach to dating today!
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