Breakups and divorces are tough especially if you were together for a long time. It’s 10 times worse if that was your first love or relationship. They can leave you feeling like you’ve lost everything in life. You feel as if you will never find happiness again. This feeling is often rooted in what is known as a scarcity mentality. It’s a common human condition where the mind sees things through rose-colored glasses. This mindset convinces you that your recent relationship was the best you could ever have, and now it’s all downhill from here. But fear not The daily flirt is here to help. Let’s debunk this myth and explore ways to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mentality step by step.
Understanding Scarcity Mentality
The scarcity mentality is the belief that makes you feel as if your opportunities are limited, and if you lose one, you may never get another. This mindset can be particularly potent after a breakup or divorce when emotions are raw, and self-esteem is often at an all-time low. Common irrational thoughts include:
- “I will never find another woman like that again!”
- “It took me years to find her! Now I have to start all over!”
- “I’m only attracted to super unique women. It’ll take forever to find another like her.”
- “My life is over without her. I might as well give up.”
- “I will die alone and lonely”
Debunking Scarcity Myths
“I will never find another woman like that again!”
This is the most classic example of a scarcity mentality in men after a breakup or divorce. The world is vast. There are 8.1 billion people. 4 billion are women. Even if you take only 25% of those 4 billion that’s still 1 billion women. Thats 1,000,000,000 women. Unless you live on a tiny, island with 200 population there are likely hundreds of thousands of potential partners within a reasonable distance of you. It’s irrational to believe that out of all these people, none could be as good or better than your ex. Thats just crazy talk.
Also if you really care about your fixing your dating life move out of the small village and head to a city. Trust me you will find hundreds of thousands of potentially hot partners.
“It took me years to find her! Now I have to start all over!”
While it may have taken you a long time to find your last partner, this doesn’t mean it will take as long again. Before you had zero experience and that was your first girlfriend let’s say. Now you have a lot more experience, you are now better equipped to navigate the dating world. You’ve grown, learned, and are more confident and independent.
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“I’m only attracted to super unusual women with this one (or several) specific trait(s). It will take me forever to find another one like that!”
This belief is also rooted in scarcity. Even if you have some weird wacky fetish trust me there are plenty of women who will be open to doing it with you. Especially submissive women. They are quite open to doing things that you like in bed even if they might find it odd or weird at first.
So trust me when I say this. There are a lot of women that you will like and will also like you regardless of how very specific tastes you have.
“My life is over without her. I might as well give up on life.”
This is probably the scariest thing I read from guys in chats and comments. If you feel like hurting yourself just because a woman left you, even if you don’t actually mean it but feel that level of sadness, what does that say about you? What does that say about what kind of man you are? What does that say about your life?
Are you telling me that your entire life is destroyed because a girl doesn’t want to be your girlfriend or wife anymore? Was your entire life about her? Do you realize what it means when you make women the center of your life?
Steps to Overcome Scarcity Mentality
- Take Time for yourself to level up
- After a breakup, it’s important to take time to heal and reflect on things. As a guy this is probably when you are the weakest but also the time when you can become the strongest. Go to the gym, start learning about fashion, and level up in your career. Take 6 months time to transform yourself into a legend. Thats the best thing you can do for yourself. This period is essential for rebuilding your self-esteem and discovering what truly makes you happy.
- Embrace an Abundance Mindset
- Shift your thinking from scarcity to abundance. Remind yourself daily that the world is full of opportunities. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You just need to go where the fish are. This mindset will help you stay positive and open to new experiences.
- Engage in Activities You Enjoy
- Pursue activities and hobbies that bring you fulfillment. Level up in real life like you level up in games. Not only will this help you heal, but it will also increase your chances of meeting new people with similar interests. Whether it’s joining a sports team, taking up a new hobby, or traveling, these activities can open up new social circles. Remember your goal should be being the best version of yourself.
- Focus on Personal Development
- Use this time to invest in yourself and your skills. Read books, take courses, and work on your physical fitness fashion whatever you feel is lacking at your level. Life is a game you need to level up your skills to make it easier. This growth will boost your confidence and make you more attractive to women in general. Moreover, it will ensure that you enter your next relationship will be much better than the previous one.
- Seek Professional Help if Needed
- If you’re struggling to cope with your emotions or if you have thoughts of self-harm, seek professional help immediately. Therapy can provide you with the tools to manage your feelings and develop a healthier mindset. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You are not alone.
Moving Forward
Remember, a breakup or divorce is not the end of your world but a new beginning. By overcoming the scarcity mentality, you open yourself up to a world full of possibilities. Like we said before there are plenty of fish in the sea. You just need to go where the fish are. The right women is out there for you, and with an abundance mindset, you’ll be ready to meet them when the time is right.
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