In the world of online dating, the competition has gotten quite heated. Online dating is no longer just a backup plan—it’s the plan. Apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are where relationships begin. But let’s be honest: the online dating game can feel overwhelming. You swipe, you message, you wait… and sometimes, nothing happens.
Here’s the truth: success in online dating isn’t about luck. It’s about strategy. With the insane competition in online dating. An average profile won’t cut it. With countless profiles to swipe through, how do you create one that catches someone’s eye and sparks interest? The key lies in making a memorable online dating profile that reflects who you are while attracting the right kind of attention. As a dating coach, I’ve seen what works and what doesn’t. Let’s break down how you can turn your online dating experience into something that works for you. In this post, we’ll dive into tips and examples to help you create a profile that will get you the matches you desire
1. Start with a Strong Profile
Think of your dating profile as your elevator pitch. Your profile photos and bio are the first thing people notice. So make it count. A strong first impression can set the tone for the rest of your profile. You’ve got about five seconds to grab her attention before she swipes left. Here’s how to make those seconds count:
- Use Quality Photos:
Your pictures are the first thing she’ll notice. Invest in well-lit, clear shots that show off your personality. Avoid blurry selfies or group shots where she has to guess which one is you.- Start with a confident headshot.
- Include a full-body photo (but skip the shirtless gym mirror pics).
- Add an action shot—hiking, cooking, playing guitar—something that shows you have interests.
- Write a Bio That Sparks Interest:
Skip the clichés like “I love long walks on the beach.” Instead, be specific. Share something that invites curiosity:
“I’m the guy who will beat you at Scrabble but lose at karaoke every time.”
Pro Tip: Humor and authenticity win every time. Women aren’t looking for perfection—they’re looking for personality.
Example: Instead of the generic line like “I love to travel,” try something more creative like, “My passport is my most prized possession—ask me about the time I got lost in Tokyo.”
You get the idea. Be creative, fun, and interesting. Here is a good example from Jared from his profile:
2. Use High-Quality Different Types of Photos
Stale profiles are a turn-off. Update your photos and bio every couple of months to keep things fresh. This also boosts your visibility in app algorithms.
Try adding seasonal updates:
“Fall is here—hit me up if you know where to find the best pumpkin spice latte in town.”
Your photos are the first thing women see. Choose pictures that are clear, well-lit, and show different aspects of your life.
Showcase a life that women would love to be a part of. So a few cute pictures, sexy pictures, pictures showing you have an awesome lifestyle, pictures showing your fun side, and pictures showing your adventurous side, etc.
Example: Include a mix of solo shots, candid photos, and pictures that showcase your interests. Suppose you love hiking or doing some fun crazy things.
Your profile should give potential matches a glimpse into what you’re passionate about. Whether it’s your love for rock climbing, your obsession with sci-fi movies, or your weekend volunteering, show that you have a very interesting life that women would love to be a part of.
3. Be the Real You
The goal is to be the best version of you. Now the current you might not be the one who feel the most confident with. That means you now have work to do to improve yourself in the way you want to be. Maybe your goal is to improve your fashion or your physique.
Or maybe you wanna be more confident when talking to and approaching beautiful women. Whatever you want to improve in your own life you need to make an actual goal for the same.
It’s tempting to make a fake profile that is not actually the real you for the likes and attention but that never works in the long run. You can only pretend so much. Being your best self is more important than being a fake person. Present the best version of yourself, and don’t fall into the trap of creating a profile that seems perfect.
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4. Be Selective, Not Passive
Swiping endlessly is easy, but it’s not effective. Instead of swiping on every profile, take a moment to actually read them. Look for shared interests or something unique you can mention in your first message.
Here’s the deal: being intentional with your matches means you’re more likely to connect with someone who’s genuinely compatible.
A generic “Hey” or “What’s up?” isn’t going to cut it. The first message is your chance to stand out from the sea of notifications she’s getting.
Here’s how to nail it:
- Personalize It: Mention something from her profile. For example:
“I saw you love hiking. What’s your favorite trail around here?” - Ask a Question: Open-ended questions keep the conversation flowing:
“If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?”
Pro Tip: Confidence is attractive, but cockiness isn’t. Keep it light, fun, and curious.
Once you’ve established a good vibe, it’s time to take the conversation off the app. Prolonging the chat phase can lead to lost momentum.
When the time feels right, say something like:
“I’ve really enjoyed chatting. Want to grab a coffee and continue this in person?”
5. Show, Don’t Tell
It’s easy to list common adjectives like “funny,” “kind,” or “adventurous,” but it’s more effective to show those through your profile photos. Show potential matches what makes you interesting instead of just telling them. Be creative and interesting. The worst thing you can do to a woman is bore her.
Try to be fun, interesting, creative.
Examples:
Instead of saying “No drama, please,” try something like, “Looking for someone who loves to laugh and doesn’t take life too seriously.”
Instead of writing “I’m adventurous,” say something like, “I once went skydiving on a dare, and now I’m hooked on adrenaline rushes.”
6. Don’t Get Discouraged by Ghosting Or Red Flags
Not every match will be a winner, and that’s okay. Keep an eye out for red flags like:
- Vague or incomplete profiles.
- Overly flirtatious or pushy messages right out of the gate.
- Inconsistent communication or constant excuses for not meeting in person.
Trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. Ghosting happens. It’s not ideal, but it’s a reality of online dating. Instead of taking it personally, focus on the matches that do engage.
Here’s the mindset shift: ghosting isn’t a reflection of your worth—it’s a reflection of your availability, interest, or priorities. Keep swiping, keep messaging, and stay open to new connections.
7. End with a Call to Action
Make sure your profile has a call to action so it’s easier for potential matches to reach out to you. End your profile with a question or a prompt. This gives you girls an easy topic of conversation if they want to hit you up for a conversation. If you make her think of a topic chances are she won’t. So better way is to give her a call to action as shown in the examples below:
Example: “I’m always looking for new book recommendations—what’s the last great book you read?”
Or always down for some exotic food – What’s the last amazing thing you ate?
Be Yourself, But Make It Memorable
The goal is to be the best version of yourself both offline and online. Creating an interesting profile is definitely worth it for getting multiple matches in the long run. If you feel you need help feel free to reach out to Anna from the Daily Flirt or anyone from the Modern Success team.
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